Communication is the foundation of any healthy friendship or relationship. Communication can seem so basic, yet, so riddled on many an occasion with inevitable misconstrues. We all communicate differently. Notably, a connection, particularly with the opposite sex, cannot be nurtured in a void of communication. Men and women have divergent ways of executing effective communication attributable to the myriad pattern and train of thought.
A successful outcome of a conversation generally will be made up of a collection of interest, active listening and giving feedback, meaningful gestures, postulating a positive body language and maintaining eye contact.
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Overall, men are thought and seen to poorly express themselves, especially verbally. Speaking their mind in an elaborate manner and holding lengthy conversations with emotive innuendos, for most of them is a tall order.
In most families, the upbringing of the boys seeks to rein in on the way a man expresses feelings and emotions explicitly. Thought as “weak”, “feminine” and often, the boy will be told to “man up.” This contributes to the lack thereof of the need to obviously display emotions, even when needful. They bottle it up for the fear of being judged erroneously. This decimates successful conversation skills, especially with the opposite sex. Unabashedly, most men will seek an instruction on how to hold a meaningful conversation with the opposite sex as female conversations can be enigmatic and circumlocutory.
Some effort to demystify this kind of communication necessitates;
Being an active listener
Patience in lengthy conversations is most desired. Empathy too, while seeking to understand her feelings. Give feedback if needed or just listening clearly without offering a solution. Possibly, while keeping distractions to a bare minimum.
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Know how and what to say
The choice of the words and the tone in which they are uttered is
paramount in a dialogue. Women are known to be very expressive so the
words spoken should have a positive emotional depth and warmth. Keep the
words simple, said in a slow, calm and clear manner. There is power in
an intimate conversation.
Choose a good topic
If it is the man initiating the conversation, he should make it
interesting by asking open-ended questions without seeming like an
interrogation. Questions foster a conversation as often people like
recounting their experiences, wants and needs when they are at ease with
the subject at hand.
Keep your sense of humor
Celebrating individuality and differences in the thick of things
especially in long-term commitment makes the relationship joyful and a
gives a level flow to dialogue.