Common mistakes people make when relating to the opposite sex

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We'll be having a chat about Common mistakes people make when relating to the opposite sex today.
Personally, I've noticed people make so many mistakes when relating to the opposite sex, so basically we'll be talking about four common mistakes people make when relating to the opposite sex.

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Mistake 1- We misinterpret the attention of the opposite sex.
As an outgrowth of the frustration and desperation sometimes experienced when we want to be married, many singles overreact to any attention from someone of the opposite sex, especially if that someone is attractive to them. If a man looks at us twice, we women can read all kinds of things into it. If a woman happens to sit by a man at a social function, he thinks she's sending him come-ons.

This misinterpretation of attentions is one of the major reasons its difficult for a single man and woman to have a platonic relationship. Both are on their guard, worried about signals, instead of allowing that two people can actually have a friendly conversation and enjoy each others company without a romantic attraction.

I also observe too often that many singles enjoy sending signals and then disowning them. After all, it's an ego trip to think that one or two people are on your string, hoping you'll come their way sooner or later, even if you're not attracted to them. They disguise their maneuvers (perhaps even to themselves) by telling everyone, we're just friends. They even say that to the other person right up front, laying the groundwork for a quick exit when necessary, and then proceed to give attentions and signals that are truly misleading. Anyone would misinterpret them. And they break not a few hearts in the process of feeding their egos.

Mistake 2- We put too much in a relationship and hang on too long.

Do yourself a favor: Admit you have an emotional dependency you're calling love or even admit that you really love the person if you think you do but acknowledge that its a wrong relationship and get out. How do you get out? By taking drastic steps.

If you're in a relationship and you're being treated with disrespect, thoughtlessness, or unkindness, that's a good sign you've hung on too long and put up with too much. If you're hoping he or she will change, you don't know too much about human nature. The one thing that might make a person like this change is having to live with the consequences of his or her behavior namely, losing the relationship. As long as he or she can get by with treating you shabbily, there's not likely to be much change in behavior.
 
If you're not happy with the treatment you're receiving from a person before you marry, you can be sure the treatment you would get after marriage would be much more of the same and worse.

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Mistake 3- We carry our list of requirements for a relationship with us and judge others too quickly and selfishly. 

I used to have a list of the things I wanted in a man. The list was divided into Essential and Nonessential. Now, that's not an altogether bad idea.

My Essential list now has one thing on it: Must be someone who would enhance my walk with God and allow us to have a more effective ministry together than we have separately.

Many singles, however, seem to have a long list of requirements for their potential date or mate, and they've gotten a bit carried away with it, probably as a reaction to the many failed marriages around us. It's as though they're checking you out, making sure you meet their needs. They approach this area of their lives as they might approach buying a car: What features do you have and what are the benefits of those features to me?

Having certain important guidelines in mind as we meet and date people is helpful in keeping us from making totally emotional decisions. But checking people out for selfish reasons is going too far.

 
Mistake 4: We think that anything is better than being alone.
While its true that we have basic needs for companionship, its not true that loneliness is the worst condition in the whole world. Note that I said loneliness, not loneliness. There's a big difference, you know.

Most people fear loneliness because to them it represents loneliness. They haven't learned to fill their time so that loneliness is valuable and refreshing for them. I have learned to love my loneliness, but it has not always been that way. It has come as I've learned to enjoy the presence of God and stopped equating loneliness with loneliness.

Loneliness is a feeling, an attitude. We don't get through this life without experiencing it to some degree. But to settle for anything as a substitute for loneliness is a big mistake. There are worse things than loneliness, and by Gods grace we do not have to be overcome and defeated by loneliness. He can take our loneliness and turn it into beautiful, fruitful, productive time with Him.

Recognize that being alone doesn't mean you're a social misfit. Don't buy into the lies of our enemy, who wants you to feel desperate. When we feel desperate, we act in irrational and unprincipled ways. When we feel an overpowering need to have someone near, we'll settle for anything.